I used to believe in the effectivity and practicality of ‘live in’ (or ‘living together’) before getting married. But the inuman session with the Punzkie clan is philosophy changing. I used to see live in as the experimental period of boyfriend-girlfriend before marriage. Hearing and knowing all those failed and broken marriage, I’m blaming it for the changes in personality and attitude of one or both parties only discovered when living under one roof. Marriage is thus overrated.

‘So, do you believe that such problems arise soon after boyfriend-girlfriend started living together?’, Kuya Aubrey, married and one of the cousins in the discussion, asked me.
‘Yes’, I answered.
‘In any marriage, from time to time, you would find something new about your partner – on how he/she thinks, feels or neglects, solves or complicates situations and problems. This is where love enters. This is where it should bind you together.’

Of course, I am moved. What’s greater than love? And maybe because of this, now I’ve decided that I’m getting married really soon. Lolz. Perhaps, at my early thirties.

One uncle said it’s kinda late to marry at my ideal age. He got married young – at the age perhaps of my father when I was born. My uncle’s friends are wishing that they should have married at a younger age like my uncle so that they could see their kids with degree and hopefully dignified. I replied and explained to him that at present day it would require investment, lots of blood and sweat, to establish a family and to provide it with basic needs and luxury. I guess even after one got a job after graduation, it won’t suffice.

More uncles have seconded. But it was later evident that they’re hoping for a longer time of gimmicks, girls and other benefits of bachelor-hood. Hehe. Although some of them believes that a single man could only save money once he runs a family. Seriously?

On a different talk, my aunt opened to me that she’s thinking the probable reason why my cousins, Kuya Ryan and Ate Elaine, both just few months older than me, aren’t deciding to get marry. A reason is that Kuya and Ate are still concern of the future of their parents (my aunt and my uncle) if they live another life with someone else.

Well, it’s really case-to-case basis. I’m ready once…

1) I have a recession-proof job in a managerial position
2) I have a stable clothing line or food business
3) I have earned my master’s degree or another bachelor’s degree
4) I have paid at least half of the total ammortization of the dream house and lot and dream car
5) My parents are happy and I can live not being dependent to them
…
100) I have found the right person…

Perhaps, I have already met her but in the wrong time and in the wrong place. Sigh.

Five years is short.

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